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What is Ariana Grande’s Eternal Sunshine Album About?

Sat, 02 Aug 2025 01:18:56 GMT

Healing Through Music: Pop Girlie Addition, Ariana Grande

“It’s not like I’d ever change a thing, because I’m right here, where I’m meant to be.” -Ariana Grande in Twilight Zone

In this post we will be talking about Ariana Grande’s most recent album, “Eternal Sunshine: Deluxe Edition” and the ways in which this album is connected to healing and finding your confidence. This album paints a picture of healing from codependency, an unhealthy relationship, and a divorce. It symbolizes the pain that a relationship can put us through. Not only does it symbolize being hurt by someone, but it also symbolizes what it is like to truly find yourself through healing and moving on to another relationship that is healthier and matches your needs in a better way. It is so evident that Ariana was deeply hurt by her relationship but grew a lot from it.

Intro End of The World: Extended

Sometimes we may jump into a relationship because of the excitement that comes with a new relationship without truly getting to know each other to see if our needs and values align. When this happens, we can be left confused and disappointed as we realize maybe our relationship is not living up to what we expected it to be. Throughout the course of this song, Ariana is realizing that there is something not quite right with her relationship. She starts this song off with two questions, “how can I tell if I am in the right relationship? Aren’t you really supposed to know that shit?” She talks about her wish to tell the truth about her not being happy within her relationship. It seems here that she is trying to get the other person to understand her pain and questions if the person truly thought about marriage before proposing to her as she asks, “did you think before asking?”

Don’t Wanna Break Up Again

This song is really sad, and I feel like a lot of us can relate to the lyrics in this song if we have been in a difficult relationship. In this song, Ariana talks about being constantly unseen and uncared for. She references getting into an argument with her partner. She ends up being sad and starts crying, and in turn, her partner turns the volume on the TV up so they cannot hear her crying. The pain of being ignored when you are hurt, especially by your partner, can cut deep. When we are in pain, it is so important for our partner to see that pain and soothe us. If they don’t, it can feel very lonely and isolating. Ari also talks about feeling as though she is “too much” for this person which is something we can experience if others have a hard time with emotional validation.

Here are some common emotional invalidating phrases:

You are overdramatic.
Stop being so emotional.
It is not that serious.
Oh, here we go again
You are always upset
I will give you something to cry/be upset about
You are too sensitive
Just get over it

The song goes on to say how Ariana worked through her codependency in therapy and her partner did not do any individual work to improve the relationship.

What is Codependency?

Codependency is a type of relationship that is not the healthiest form of interacting. People with codependency are typically people that have a hard time setting boundaries with others and often results in enabling bad behaviors. Think people pleasing on steroids. Codependency often leads to the one person giving a lot and never having their needs met while they are feeling as though they are left without anything at the end of the day. It can be a vicious and exhausting cycle because you would do anything for your loved one in hopes that they will be happy and meet your needs yet that is not happening and it drains you.

Here are some examples of codependency:

If someone has an issue with addiction, giving them money or aiding in their addiction
Making excuses for bad behaviors
Ignoring bad behaviors
Attempting to help change the person
Anticipate other’s needs
Feel sad when they spend their lives caring for other’s needs and wonders why no one does the same for them
Feel bored, empty, or worthless if they do not have a crisis to attend to
Excessive reliance on others for approval and identity – often prioritizing others’ needs over one’s own.
Low self-esteem – feeling unworthy or inadequate without validation from others.
People-pleasing behavior – going to great lengths to gain love or avoid conflict.
Poor boundaries – difficulty saying “no” and often feeling responsible for others’ emotions or problems.
Caretaking – compulsively helping or rescuing others, even at personal cost.
Fear of abandonment – strong anxiety around being alone or rejected.
Denial of personal needs – ignoring one’s own feelings or desires to keep peace or maintain relationships.
Control issues – attempting to control situations or others to feel secure.

How to start healing from codependency?

Doing your own work on codependency is a very painful process and can be even more painful when the people we love do not do their own work. This is a gut punch because doing your own work on codependency can often mean you start choosing yourself and setting boundaries. You also start to realize the ways in which people may be taking advantage of you which is a very painful process. Going the extra mile within your relationships can feel like it is filling you up and making you happy. However, giving so much only leaves you exhausted and feeling unloved. Ariana is talking about making these realizations but not wanting to go through yet another break-up. Sometimes, through therapy, we start making these realizations about our relationships, but we cannot let them go because there is so much to lose: years, the life you built together, the mutual friends, the family bonds, pets, the home you have built, the idea of what you thought the relationship was/would be, etc. Change is scary, leaving something is scary and Ariana depicts this well in this song.

Eternal Sunshine and Being Cheated On

Ariana based the album off of one of her favorite movies entitled, “Eternal Sunshine of The Spotless Mind.” This movie follows a couple in a turbulent yet passionate romance. They both hurt each other and end up breaking up. They go to a clinic to erase the memories of the relationship. In this song, “Eternal Sunshine,” Ariana is talking about this concept and because of this, it is evident that the pain must be pretty deep if she is wishing to not remember the relationship.

The interesting thing about this song is that Ariana starts this song off with a deep sigh. In that sigh you can feel the emotion of someone who is tired and has been deeply hurt. She goes on to sing, “I don’t care what people say, we both know I couldn’t change you. I guess you could say the same, can’t rearrange truth. I’ve never seen someone lie like you do, so much even you start to think it’s true, get me out of this loop.” If you have ever been in a relationship with someone who is a chronic liar this line is relatable. There are some people out there that lying comes easily to. As we know, lies often become known with time. When this happens this tends to erode trust within relationships which tends to be a core foundation of a healthy relationship.

Ariana goes on to illude that her partner was cheating on her as another woman was laying on her partner’s chest in her bed. Being cheated on can erode your self-esteem. It can make you feel as though you are unlovable, unattractive, and not good enough. These lyrics represent giving yourself to a person fully and your partner causing betrayal trauma. We can often find ourselves asking how to I heal from relationship trauma?

Ariana talks about matching hurt with hurt, so she hurt her partner back possibly by moving on fast with a new partner. Ariana references, “I found a good boy and he is on my side you are just my eternal sunshine.” This is a reference to the movie as Ariana is saying this experience has been so painful she wants to erase it from her mind and pretend it never happened. She even references having trouble breathing and trying to hold it together by not breaking. Ari has been criticized heavily in the media as of late and a lot of people have noted that her eyes appear “dead.” It seems that her eyes appear sad from all of the trauma she has gone through. Phew, a heartbreak that cuts that deep is usually one that can stay with us for many years, and her song displays this pain perfectly.

Twilight Zone

When we are going through something traumatic or difficult our survival instincts kick in. These are fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. These are innate natural instincts that we have had since the evolution of being human. The reason this is in place on a basic level is to protect us from harm and give us the will to survive without even thinking in the moment and simply act to get to safety. After we experience trauma or a difficult situation it is normal to ask, “did that really happen?” due to our survival instincts kicking in. Ariana sings about this concept in this song, and she plays it out beautifully.

Ariana says, “does she know you’re not who you say you are? Cause I might give her a call. Or was I just not me at all?” In this part of the song, it really seems like she is reflecting on her past self. She is wanting to go warn herself that her past partner is not who they seem to be, and she also questions who she was in the relationship or if it really happened as she sings, “sometimes I just can’t believe you happened.” This concept here really shows that twilight effect we can experience after something traumatic.

One of the most powerful lines of this song is when she says, “it’s not like I’d ever change a thing, cause I’m right here where I meant to be.” This line resembles posttraumatic growth . Posttraumatic growth after going through trauma is where you have truly healed, meaning you have not suppressed your trauma or pretended it is not there. This means you have done the very hard and scary work to face the trauma head on, and you are now on the other side. This can often lead to stronger relationships, increased self-confidence, and feeling a brighter joy in life. Oftentimes, you feel somewhat grateful for what you went through because if you did not, you would not have experienced this type of personal growth. This does not mean that you loved the trauma you went through, it just means you have a deeper purpose from it. This can lead to a higher purpose and calling of helping others get through what you got through because you understand how dark it was and how bright it can be.

Past Life

This is one of my favorites! This is such an emotionally powerful song. In this song, Ariana is reflecting back on this relationship after some time has passed. It seems that she has done a lot of healing to get to this song and the feelings she is conveying within it. She talks about when she entered the relationship, she was lost as she says, “a moth to a flame, I didn’t think I just flew, you think I’m lost but that’s just how you found me.” She also reflects back on some differing perspectives she has on the relationship now that some time has passed. When Ariana sings, “I used to think you were the medicine, but you were code blue” she is talking about how she once thought this relationship was the best thing to happen to her but realized that in the end it was actually killing her emotionally.

The most powerful lyrics of this song are when Ariana goes on to say, “always wondered what would happen if I let you lose me, always wondered what would happen if I let myself need more, might fuck around and elevate my expectations, now I’m fine to leave you in the past life.” THIS, this right here! This is taking your power back. Being a chronic people pleaser oftentimes means we are putting everyone else’s needs above our own. It means we may have super low expectations, so low in fact that the bar is on the floor. We accept the BARE minimum. Here Ari is saying no to all of those low expectations, and she is saying she has boundaries and realizes her self-worth. She realizes here that this relationship does not even measure up to who she is at all, so she is fine to leave this in the past. This my friend is the ultimate form of choosing yourself and loving yourself. If our standards are low of course people are going to aim low, and we will be hurt time and time again. If we understand that we deserve more, we deserve the same love and respect that we put out, then it will find us.

Hampstead

This is the closing song of the album, and it is very symbolic to closing this chapter on her life which is very relatable. There has been a lot of controversy surrounding her current partner and the timing of their relationship and Ariana addresses this a bit in the song. Hamstead was one of the last places Ari was seen with her past partner so many believe this song heavily addresses him as well. I believe it also addresses the press surrounding these controversies. Ari starts the song off by saying, “I left my heart at a pub in Hampstead, but I misplaced my mind in a good way, threw away my reputation, but saved us more heartbreak.” To me these lyrics reflect breaking the cycle of an unhealthy relationship and rerouting your choices to have a healthier life no matter the negative consequences (hence throwing away her reputation). Oftentimes we are stuck in this vicious cycle of unhealthy patterns. We can get stuck in these patterns and feel so miserable. Ariana talks about throwing away her reputation in order to choose what was right for her and break this pattern of being in an unhappy relationship.

With the heavy criticism Ariana has faced over this situation, Ari sings, “what’s wrong with a little bit of poison, tell me, I’d rather be seen alive than dying by your point of view , I do, I do, I do.” She is referencing that she would rather face the backlash then stay in a relationship that was killing her emotionally. She would rather choose herself and make others mad than stay in something that is not right for her. This right here is true healing of codependence and people pleasing, being able to choose yourself.

“I don’t remember too much of the last year, but I knew who I was when it got here. Cause I am still the same but only entirely different.” This symbolizes further posttraumatic growth. This right here is finding yourself. When we go through hard times and trauma, we often think that we just need to get back to the person that we were before the experience happened. What we don’t realize is that we have pieces of ourselves that we need to let go of in order to grow so we really cannot go back to who we were. That is because we are going to become a beautiful version of ourselves and in order to do so there is some loss in that. We are going to have the life we always deemed of and in order to do this we must heal and let those pieces go. Welcome to healing Miss Ari.

If any of this resonated with you, or you’re just a fellow Ari fan that wants to channel the same healing she has, please reach out, I would be happy to help you start working on healing and choosing yourself. I provide deeper trauma work and EMDR therapy in Longwood, Florida. Book a free consultation on my main page!

Disclaimer:
I am a licensed mental health therapist, and this blog post reflects my professional perspective as well as my personal interpretation of the music discussed. Please note that the views expressed here are my own and are based on subjective analysis; they may or may not align with the artist’s intended meaning or with others’ interpretations. This post is intended for educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for personalized mental health treatment. If you are in crisis or need support, please seek help from a qualified mental health provider in your area. I do not own the rights to the music, lyrics, or any associated content referenced in this post. All rights to the original music and related intellectual property belong to their respective artists, writers, and copyright holders. This post is shared under fair use for purposes of commentary, criticism, and education.

Healing from Trauma: Understanding PTSD and the Path to Recovery

Sun, 06 Jul 2025 14:48:59 GMT

Struggling with trauma or PTSD? Learn the signs, symptoms, and how to start healing. Discover effective trauma recovery tools and support strategies today.

What Is Trauma?

Trauma is a deeply distressing or disturbing experience that overwhelms a person’s ability to cope. It can result from a single event, like a car accident, or ongoing stress, such as childhood abuse, domestic violence, or combat exposure.

Common types of trauma include:

Emotional or psychological trauma
Physical or sexual abuse
Childhood neglect or abandonment
Accidents, disasters, or witnessing violence

When left unresolved, trauma can lead to Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) , a mental health condition that affects millions of people worldwide.

What Is PTSD?

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a psychiatric condition triggered by experiencing or witnessing a traumatic event. While not everyone who experiences trauma develops PTSD, for many, the symptoms can interfere with daily life, relationships, and work.

Common PTSD Symptoms:

Flashbacks or intrusive memories
Nightmares or insomnia
Hypervigilance or feeling "on edge"
Emotional numbness or detachment
Avoidance of people, places, or reminders of the trauma
Guilt, shame, or low self-worth

PTSD can affect anyone—children, veterans, survivors of abuse, first responders, or anyone who has experienced overwhelming stress.

How Trauma Affects the Brain and Body

Trauma doesn’t just impact your thoughts and emotions—it physically changes your brain. It can:

Over-activate the amygdala (fear center)
Reduce function in the prefrontal cortex (decision-making and logic)
Impair the hippocampus , which affects memory and emotional regulation

These changes can explain why trauma survivors feel "stuck" in survival mode or have difficulty trusting, connecting, or feeling safe.

Healing from Trauma: What Recovery Looks Like

Healing from trauma is possible with the right support, time, and resources.

Evidence-Based PTSD Treatment Options:

Trauma-focused therapy (such as EMDR, CPT, or CBT)
Somatic therapies (focus on body awareness and regulation)
Medication (SSRIs or anti-anxiety medications, when prescribed)
Support groups or peer networks
Mindfulness and grounding techniques
Lifestyle changes (healthy sleep, nutrition, movement)

Recovery is not about forgetting the trauma—it’s about regaining control, safety, and self-compassion.

Tips for Supporting Trauma Recovery

Whether you're healing or helping someone else, here are ways to support trauma recovery:

Create a safe, supportive environment
Respect boundaries and avoid pushing for details
Encourage professional help
Practice active listening and validation
Promote self-care and stress management tools

When to Seek Help

If you or someone you know is experiencing symptoms of PTSD that interfere with life, it's time to seek support. Mental health professionals trained in trauma can help guide the healing process.

You are not alone. Help is available. Recovery is real.

Final Thoughts

Living with trauma or PTSD is hard—but healing is possible. The first step is understanding how trauma impacts you, and then taking small, compassionate steps toward recovery. Whether through therapy, community, or self-care, know that your journey matters, and your healing is worth the effort.

Ready to Start Healing?

If you’re struggling with trauma or PTSD, you don’t have to go through it alone. Reach out today to schedule a confidential therapy session and take the first step toward healing. Your mental health matters—and help is just a conversation away.

Do I Need An Apology To Heal?

Mon, 16 Jun 2025 21:04:01 GMT

How to Heal Without An Apology

One of the basic things most of us learned growing up was that if you do something wrong that you more than likely should apologize. Most of our parents would say, “now say that you are sorry” and we would have to ask for forgiveness. There can be a lot of benefits to saying you are sorry and also receiving an apology from others. Saying sorry helps us learn how to be accountable for our actions and can provide a sense of relief to those that we have caused pain. If someone caused us intense pain or trauma it can help us begin the process of healing if the other person is able to acknowledge how much they hurt us. An apology says, “I messed up, I was wrong, I hurt you, and that was not okay.” It also says that you matter and that you deserved better.

Saying Sorry Is Hard

The human mind is absolutely complex. There can be so many reasons why someone may not be able to say sorry. I think a lot of us do not particularly love admitting that we are wrong. It can be so hard to say that we messed up and can be painful. However, a lot of people who are emotionally healthy will do this and have deeper insight. With deeper insight we often have the ability to realize that we are not perfect, we do make mistakes, and can learn from them. With this comes an ability to say sorry, even if it is hard.

Here are some reasons why people may not apologize:

1. Guilt and shame

A lot of the time it feels shameful to admit that you have made a mistake and hurt others. This can be especially true if you had good intentions and wanted to do the right thing. Sometimes people feel guilty for hurting others and having a combination of guilt and shame can feel awful. It can be easier to avoid an apology than it is to admit the mistake that we have made. If we pretend it’s not there its not real, right? Sadly, it still is and the wronged party is still in pain.

2. A lack of emotional intelligence/empathy

Most often people with a deep understanding of emotional intelligence will be able to say sorry and truly mean it. You have to be able to put yourself in the other person’s shoes to realize why what happened was wrong and understand your wrongdoing. If you grew up in a household that did not foster your emotions, it can be hard to have a strong emotional intelligence as this was not something that you had learned. If you are dealing with people that have no empathy or emotional understanding it is likely that they will never see the wrong in the pain they have caused. Thus resulting in you not receiving an apology.

3. Pride

The negative aspect of pride is when someone has difficulty with seeing wrong doings and feels that their character is threatened. This often can show up as a person feeling as though they can do no wrong. This can also show up as a person attempting to zero out the mistake by noting all of the things they have done for the other person. This is especially true if someone has perfectionist tendencies. It is so hard to admit that you have made a mistake, especially if how people perceive you is meaningful to you.

4. Blaming is easier

This usually is a defense mechanism that comes out when others are feeling attacked. Oftentimes it is easier to blame the victim for what happened than to say sorry. This is usually a very easy way out of something and can cause a lot of pain for the hurt party. It can make you feel anxious and helpless.

But What If They Won’t Say Sorry, Can You Really Let Go?

When we feel wronged and the other party is unable to acknowledge their wrongdoing, there is a big sense of injustice. This happens because being hurt can be very one sided. The other person gets off scot-free while you are here attempting to pick up the pieces that they broke. They do not have to do any of the work because they took the easier way out-not having any accountability for their wrongdoings. Sometimes it can feel like in order to heal we need an apology. We just need them to say how much they hurt us. We need them to say they messed up and that we deserved better. We need them to learn from these mistakes and never repeat them again. There is often a need for validation of the hurt and pain that was caused. The interesting thing about this though is often we look for validation from the very person that is hurting us and refusing to apologize. We can become so stuck in this need for justice that it holds us back from healing.

Selena Gomez recently came out with this beautiful song, “You Said You Were Sorry.” In this song she talks about the concept of healing without an apology beautifully. Selena is referencing a past relationship but this concept can be applied to any situation. In the song Selena sings, “I had a dream, you said you were sorry, you said you were sorry, sorry for everything that you put on me, that you put on me, our eyes were balling rain, we finally both forgave, I had a dream, that’s all it was. That was enough for me.”

Take a minute and re-read those lyrics if you need to or to listen to the actual song. Let it sink in. We do not need an apology to heal.

How To Heal Without An Apology

I would say that most people that refuse to apologize or acknowledge their mistakes are not losing sleep over what they did to us. They are not suffering like you are. There is a callousness to that that cuts deep. The truth of the matter is that you deserve to heal. You deserve to move past the pain that others have caused you. We have to do this by forgiving, NOT for them but for ourselves. In Selena’s song she is saying that this person never truly apologized as she has dreamed of this person apologizing. I am sure many of us have hoped and wished for an apology and thought about what a sense of relief that would give us. Maybe this apology would push us into the healing journey that we need to go down. A simple apology does not immediately take our pain away but it can provide a sense of relief. The fact of the matter is that some people are just not going to apologize so we have to find a way through the pain on our own without hoping for something that may never come. Sometimes people do change and grow and realize the mistakes that they have made. It is possible that you may still get the apology but in the meantime you deserve to give yourself healing because imagine what will happen if they never do.

Healing from pain is complicated

It can be confusing trying to figure out how to navigate your feelings after someone has hurt you. There can be many mixed emotions associated with the hurt that you are feeling. When someone we love and trust hurts us it can really tear us apart. It can be hard to know where to even begin in the process of healing. It can often leave use feeling vulnerable, angry, sad, anxious, and make it hard to trust others. Sometimes it can even feel as though it is our fault. That maybe if we were good enough or mattered more that this would not have happened. These feelings can be sorted out through therapy. We can work together to feel free of all of the difficult emotions and find ways to sort through them. We can work towards forgiveness so that you can truly win. They say the best revenge is moving on with your life and being happy despite the pain that others have put you through. If you are ready to heal from the pain that others have caused you, not for anyone but yourself, reach out and schedule an appointment!

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This blog post is for informational and educational purposes and does not constitute psychological diagnosis or treatment.

The song lyrics referenced in this post are the property of their respective copyright holders. I do not claim ownership of any lyrics, music, or related content mentioned herein. All rights to quoted or referenced material belong to their respective owners and are used here under fair use for commentary, discussion, and educational purposes.

How To Heal From A Break-Up

admin@thewoodstherapy.com (Mackenzie Torres) — Sun, 18 May 2025 11:58:19 GMT

Healing is possible

People often wonder how to heal from a break-up or an unhealthy relationship. Being in a difficult relationship can cause confusion, loss of self, diminished self-esteem, and lots of anxiety. Have you ever been in a relationship where there is a constant rollercoaster happening? Things feel amazing when the relationship is good but when the relationship is bad it is really bad. You know the relationship is not good for you but the few good moments keep you there. The history of what once was is begging you to stay. All of your friends and family tell you this relationship is not good for you, but you cannot let it go. Maybe you have let it go but you are finding yourself wanting to go back because love is worth fighting for. It can feel like at times you will never recover from the gut-wrenching blow this relationship has done to your self-esteem.

You Feel Emotionally Destroyed

This relationship has you lost and confused. You feel as though there is something wrong with you. Often you may find yourself asking, “am I unlovable?” “am I too much,” or “why can’t I be good enough.” It feels as though you need to fix yourself and overcompensate to do everything and more to keep the relationship. You keep giving and not receiving, and it is so exhausting. You don’t even know who you are anymore because you lost yourself in this relationship.

How Did I Get Here?

When we feel like we are not good enough no matter how hard we try we will often try to convince others of our worth. We do this because it is hard to see our worth on our own. This can often happen if, growing up our parents made us feel like we did not matter or weren’t good enough no matter how hard we tried. Maybe our parents constantly criticized us or were very harsh with us for simple mistakes. Maybe we were expected to sit down and be quiet. Often times there isn’t room for us, whether it's because our parents take up all the space or tell us to not feel our emotions. We tend to repeat the same patterns within our relationships as we become adults because on a deeper, innate level we recognize this pattern and it feels safe. The reason it feels safe is because that is what we have known our entire life.

What Is A Healthy Versus An Unhealthy Relationship?

Relationships are not meant to be roller coasters. Sure, relationships require a lot of compromise and are not perfect by any means. They are not meant to cause constant stress, tears, or make you feel like you are not good enough. Being constantly cheated on is not normal, your needs and emotions being brushed off is not okay, and being physically abused is detrimental to your safety. Being coerced into sexual acts you are not comfortable with is not the sign of a healthy relationship either. Having daily arguments that can never get resolved and often end up with threats/yelling is often anxiety-provoking and exhausting. Being put down or called names can impact your self-esteem.

Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship:

Emotional Abuse
Constant Arguments with no resolution
Sexual abuse
Put-downs
Constant anxiety
Cheating
Breaking up constantly and getting back together
Broken trust
Differing Morals
Physical abuse
Blaming
Partner not listening/blowing off your emotions
Anger that gets out of control (physical abuse, throwing items, cursing, name-calling
Nothing feels good enough
Not having fun together
Lack of intimacy

Signs of a healthy relationship:

No relationship is perfect. In movies, relationships are often depicted as being over the top romantic with dates, flowers, roses, and the ultimate act of love. Then marriage and a baby. Every relationship looks different and real relationships are much more complex than movies portray. Arguments happen in healthy relationships; sometimes we may say things we do not mean. That doesn’t mean a relationship is wrong or unhealthy. It just means we are human and make mistakes. Being in a healthy relationship is really about mutual respect, communication, compromise, and having fun together. This means allowing each other to be human and make mistakes. Forgiveness is something that occurs frequently. There aren’t super detrimental things happening like harsh words, physical abuse, cheating, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, etc. You feel as though you are good enough and your partner often lifts you up.

Having fun together
Constructive communication
Having similar interests
Similar values
Forgiveness
Autonomy
Kindness
Warmth
Respect
Intimacy
Healthy Boundaries
Conflict resolution
Mutual commitment
Trust
Honesty
Differences are respected and valued
Having give and take

Healing is Possible

What if I told you healing is possible? Choosing yourself is possible. Learning to love yourself is possible, and you are worth it. There are so many wonderful things that make you, you.

Here are some ways to heal from a break-up:

Engage in self-care: eating good meals, drinking water, doing fun activities
Eating safe foods and snacks (it is okay to have chocolate, cheese, ice-cream, etc.)
Spending time with supportive people/family
Allowing yourself to grieve: cry, be angry, be confused, be in despair
Listen to songs about break-ups
Watch a break-up movie
Learn how to love yourself: write a love letter to yourself, make a daily list about all of the great things you did right that day or within the relationship
Think about what your ideal relationship is and make a list to see if your ex met these needs
Freehand journal: write without a prompt about how this relationship has made you feel
Read books on break-ups
Spend time in nature
Go on a solo trip or a trip with friends
Think about ways in which this may improve your life (i.e. more time for time alone and doing things you enjoy).
Start a new hobby/pick up an old hobby that got lost

Seeking Therapy As An Ultimate Form of Healing

In therapy, we work on healing from a break-up by finding true healing. This means we help you to regain confidence, express your emotions about your loss, and find ways to move on with your life. It can feel like there is no hope of meeting someone else or maybe you are so exhausted that the prospect of love does not sound appealing. We work together to help identify patterns that may have contributed to this difficult relationship. This is done through psychoeducation about attachment styles and childhood trauma. Often the therapist will ask you questions in order to dig deeper and point out patterns that may be difficult for you to notice. Through therapy, we get to the root cause of pain, which could be underlying childhood trauma and relationships we witnessed growing up. We work to break patterns so that you can choose a new and happier path for yourself. We help you fall in love with yourself and learn to give yourself everything that you need. We will help you to feel like you can breathe again. We work on helping you feel as though you are good enough, that you do matter, and that you are lovable.

You deserve more. You deserve to heal. If any of this resonates with you hit the book now button to book an appointment!